Hi all. I am relatively new here, so forgive me if I use any of the abbreviations correctly. Still getting the knack of them.
Long story short, my wife told her AP that she would no longer be in contact with him a few hours after I confronted her on D-Day. She refused to block him, however, because they had been sexting, and she feared that he would try to blackmail her, saying that she wanted the possibility of getting a "heads up" if he decided to do that. It made me uneasy and I didn’t fully buy it, but after asking several times and getting the same answer, I tried to let it go.
Still, I went through her phone every night for weeks after, looking for correspondence between the two on every app I could think of. There didn’t appear to be any. Though, funny story, I did see notifications on her screen from an app called Flo and demanded to know whether she was using that to communicate with him, and, well, if you know anything about that app, you would understand why she couldn’t suppress a laugh about that one.
Three days after D-Day, she let me know that AP texted her again, and asked for permission to respond. I tentatively gave it to her. She ended up lecturing him on how much pain she saw in my face that morning and how immoral it is to pursue relationships with married people. I think I would have preferred if she hadn’t responded at all, and it seemed kind of hypocritical, but at least she had the right spirit.
He has texted her again twice since, three weeks out, and just yesterday, six months out. Each time she has let me know and not responded. She says she feels "disrespected" when he does that, and complains to me about him "violating the boundary" she set. A little ironic. While I wish she would have just blocked him to begin with so he wasn’t harassing her and re-triggering the both of us, I take her reaction to it to be a good sign.
Yesterday she posted on a different infidelity forum, expressing her displeasure at his continued attempts to contact her. While they didn’t buy her explanation that she was afraid of blackmail either, which visibly upset her to the point where I asked her what was going on, they seemed to have convinced her to finally block him. She said she guesses if he was going to blackmail her, he would have done so already. Took her long enough, but I am counting this as a small victory!
Just thought I would come here to share it with you all. Thanks for reading.
