DobleTraicion (original poster member #78414) posted at 2:55 PM on Thursday, March 6th, 2025
This could have affected the ego if it were a boxing match where the opponents are aware of the intentions of the other.
The problem here is that an A is a streetfight, a mugging if you will. You were sucker-punched. Ego does not come into play here, as you were hit when you did not expect to be hit.
Rocket Racoon, I like your analogy even better. You are right, the blows are the same, but they are all "sucker punches".
Thanks.
"We are slow to believe that which, if believed, would hurt our feelings."
~ Ovid
DobleTraicion (original poster member #78414) posted at 11:55 AM on Friday, March 7th, 2025
I don't think there is a magic bullet of advice to give. Many BS are unable to receive certain advice early on. A lot of learning must be first hand to really stick. I don't think it is counter productive to tell someone "it's not your fault. Whatever you did or didn't do didn't make your WS cheat."
No silver bullet, just majorative truths and the best way to respond. I deeply appreciate everyone's insight. My initial post was a relection on those early dark days and ensuing pain.
It took me years of rebuilding to come to a healthy place of self worth which is where I thanfully abide now.
"We are slow to believe that which, if believed, would hurt our feelings."
~ Ovid
