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You read on here a lot where a WS would say things to minimise their affair, such as 'it was only one time', 'it was only oral' etc. It always makes me scoff in that do they really think it is just the act of sex that is an issue? Sure being naked and bumping uglies is not ideal but there are so many other elements of the A that really pissed me off:

My WH would leave work early to go to her house to have sex. So here I am working more than full time hours as the main bread winner for him to spend all day having fun and then for me to go home and cook his fucking dinner, while he sits on the couch. FFS at least cook the dinner!

If I knew that sex with other people was an option, maybe I would have liked to go there with come of the blokes who were clearly keen on me.

They sent flirty sexual innuendos in messages to each other throughout the days. This is something I enjoy immensely and whilst we did that when we first dated it was something that died off over time and I really missed it.

My WH is shy and has terrible communication skills and so therefore I honestly believe this may be the one and only time since we got together (definitely since we have been married) he has had another woman interested in him and offering easy sex. So technically, he has 100% fail rate when it comes to be tested.

Would love to hear from other's the 'other' things that really got to them.

There were two parts that really got to me:

1. My wife was creating a new business at the time of her affair. She was 'very busy' all day long running around working on her new business. Meeting people, going from place to place, etc. I trusted her 100% to manage her time and didn't feel the need to be suspicious or check on her. I'm over here working full time supporting our family, and she is gallivanting around with her lover all day. Really gets under my skin. She even told me she would call him every day to chat right after dropping our kids off at school.

2. Just before her affair, she had been really sick for five years. No doctor could figure out what was wrong. We spent lots of time and energy doing tests, trying to figure out what was wrong. It was very difficult for me because I really thought she was going to die. I stepped up and took care of her, and took over many of the responsibilities she normally handles. Because of her sickness she had very low libido. This is natural and I didn't hold it against her in any way. However it made this time a bleak sex desert for me. Had I wanted to cheat I easily could have. I had WAY more justification than she did for her affair, and also time since she was sick at home. I go through all that stress and a sex desert, and didn't cheat on her, then right after she gets back to normal she runs off and cheats on me. WTF!

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The fact the OW knew I was getting a D before I did. 😡😡😡😡

The fact my H sent pictures of our kids to her (they were not adults). 😡😡😡😡😡

That the OW believed she was going to replace me and become a step mother to my children - as though I didn’t even exist 😡😡😡😡

But the thing that irks me more than anything is the fact that my H thought he was going to sail off into the sunset with the much younger OW and all was going to be peachy. No kid issues. No $ issues. No XW issues. Nope — it was all going to be perfect.

Delusional to say the least.

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