People finding out
Hi all, first-time poster and long-time lurker. My partner and I are about nine months out from D-day, and they are getting ready to move back to the same city as me. In order to preserve the small chance that we make it through this, I decided not to tell my friends or family what happened in (understandable) fear that they would never be okay with me staying with someone who cheated, let alone who cheated in the way my partner did. The problem is that my partner sexted someone and tried to sext another person, both of whom live in the same city as me. The person they sexted is in friend groups with some possible overlap, and they may cross paths with the second person as they work in the same industry. I am having terrible anxiety around the possibility of one of my friends or someone they know finding out that my partner cheated, and all of this blowing up in my face after all the effort I have put in in the last 9 months.
I know my partner is at fault here and it probably would have been smarter to leave in the first place, but here I am.
Has anyone been in a similar position and how did you mitigate the risk of people finding out? And how did you deal with the anxiety?
Thanks so much for any help y'all are able to offer
6 comments posted: Thursday, March 6th, 2025
