Happy Hour

Me and my husband got invited to a happy hour with friends tonight and he had to work but he encouraged me to go. 75% of the people there were couple friends of ours, there were a few single people and a new mom there that I seemed to really take to and enjoy talking to the first hour.

As the night went on I heard her talk about her husband and how he just didn’t like to go anywhere after work but she did so he was at home but it worked for them. She said "it worked for them" probably 10 times. As she kept drinking, I noticed how it didn’t matter, married or single, she was flirting, touching their shoulders, laughing at everything they said with every man there. It made me want to puke. I know my husband is 1000% responsible for his affair, I am not questioning that. I guess maybe I just saw it flash before my eyes of what lead to my husbands affair or how it started and I don’t understand why women/men have to do this? Why can’t women fight for each other and not hit on each others men, why can’t men resist this flirty desperate for attention girl or the other way around.

I don’t know how much sense any of this makes but it just really bothered me watching her bounce around talking about her happy marriage and acting the way she did. My husband asked me when I called him on the way home about her, because I had text him I met her ( our kids are new friends) and I told him I really liked her but unfortunately she is the type of woman I never want to be friends with because I don’t believe she is a girls girl and a woman that can act like that with another woman’s husband isn’t for me. He even said to me then what does that make me and why do you still want to be with me because I had an emotional affair. That was a tough question that I deal with everyday but I know I love him and he is remorseful and we are fighting and that is what we will continue to do.

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1 comment posted: Saturday, February 1st, 2025

1 year anniversary of D day is almost here

How did you handle this day? I feel like I am already a huge mess and going over every text in my head that I know was happening on this exact day last year. My husbands EA was shirt, he worked with her at a second job a few times a month and only text with her for about 3 weeks, 2 that became inappropriate. They had been working closely together for about 3 months leading up to finally starting to text. I have all the phone records, proof and text and from their text that it never got physical.

There has been zero contact since I found out, he quit the job and has been remorseful and 1000% transparent. I still have a lot of anger some days though and don’t know how I will handle d day. It is also my birthday in a few days and he was in the thick of texting during this time period so I honestly don’t even want to celebrate.

This past year honestly has been great, we have grown closer, put more effort into us, fought less besides breakdowns about the EA, gone on more getaways, I just sometimes get pissed bc I don’t know why it took her to make us better.

I am just ready for the pain to go away and the thought of her to go away. We do live in the same town but luckily neither of us have ran into her.

Any advice on how you handled d day anniversary? Together? Self care day? In bed crying? Celebrating you fought together and made it to the year mark?

7 comments posted: Wednesday, January 15th, 2025