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Second time around.

I forgave him the first time but now he’s cheating again. I was played a fool. Now he’s saying he wants a separation but I told him I prefer a straight divorce. I want everything a judge will grant me.

A lot has happened since the first time. I was hospitalized several times and he told my brother he didn’t signing up for the issues of my bipolar and Schizophrenia. For a while I blamed myself and played the pick me game. Knew he was having an affair but still I gave him sex. Hoping he’d choose me. No more. No more funny business.

The sex started to dwindle then just over shadowed by other small things. Don’t want to get too graphic. But I’m done trying to save my marriage with someone who yells and curses at me. He can afford it.

I told him I want a divorce now I wait. I’m on disability and on a fixed income. I feel like such a fool. He will have to pay for the divorce.

How do I scratch 16 years out of my life? How do I pay my house bills how do I go on?

Destiny,

Get a good lawyer to fight for everything you are entitled to. I know this is really hard but congratulations on getting yourself out of infidelity.
And take care of yourself. You deserve better.

First off, what a terrible situation - to be betrayed a second time after giving him the grace of reconciling the first time! Second, if he can afford a divorce, he can afford alimony, possibly for the rest of your life depending on the laws in your state. Many family/divorce attorneys will provide a free initial consultation. Take advantage of that and talk to a bunch of them before you choose one. They can't help you with the heartbreak, but they can help you pay the bills!