Chaos (original poster member #61031) posted at 8:00 PM on Monday, August 3rd, 2026
WH and I attended a concert the other week with a group of friends. We had a great time. We even hung out with the band a bit afterward by some sheer luck.
The next morning, one of the friends tags us in a FB post. Many photos were taken, but the one the poster said was the favorite was one of us holding hands. We didn’t stage it, didn’t even know it was being taken. But there it was. A silhouette of us from the back as a couple holding hands unaware of anyone noticing. Hands coupled, me with my head leaning towards his shoulder and him with his head turned down to look lovingly at me.
This is how we present and project as a couple. We are the couple that others aspire to be. We are the couple our friend’s envy. The LTA is long distant and become a dirty little secret of sorts. We don’t let it define us. It may be part of our past, part of our story. But it is not part of our present and our future.
The only thing that other’s see when they look at us is love and adoration.
For some reason – this makes me walk a bit taller today. And a bit sparklier 😊
[This message edited by Chaos at 8:00 PM, Monday, August 3rd]
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
Asterisk ( member #86331) posted at 8:13 PM on Monday, August 3rd, 2026
Bravo
And so it should!
Nice, refreshing, hopeful post. Thank you
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:41 PM on Monday, August 3rd, 2026
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 9:15 PM on Monday, August 3rd, 2026
Lucky man to be holding hands with a Badass Sparkly Godess Unicorn!
I'm very happy for you, Chaos! You'd better copy & paste this post in PRS thread or suffer the wrath of W2BHA 
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 9:34 PM on Monday, August 3rd, 2026
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
